First of all, sorry about the long gap, I had just been busy with so much that I did not get a chance to write another love advice article but I sure hope you guys didn’t need me that badly.

Anyways, today’s topic deals with the possessive or jealous type of boyfriend or husband that you may have.  Before I start, I’ll let you in a deep hidden secret about desi guys, they are really possessive about anything of theirs, let it be their car, clothes, cd player, girlfriend, wife, and even their samosas.  Possessive mind is in their genes, don’t ask me the origin of this gene, maybe our great great great great great grandfather got two-timed and got played by a  loved one and ever since that incident we have been possessive about our wives or girlfriends, who knows it could be true.  Let me start with some basics about the issue of jealousy and it’s twin sister, possessiveness.

The top three mistakes that men make with women are: 1) Coming on too heavy too soon. 2) Never standing up and saying no when appropriate. 3) Being jealous and possessive. 

Both men and women can be jealous and possessive, but men seem to be the worst offenders in this area. Countless guys have ruined an otherwise great relationship with their partners by being jealous. Jealous behaviour lowers the woman’s respect for the man and also lowers her romantic Interest Level in him. Why? Because she experiences him as being out of control, insecure and fearful. (All jealousy is based in fear, fear of loss.) 

A strong and confident man knows and trusts that his woman is loyal and that she has high interest in him. He does not stay in a relationship with a woman who isn’t loyal and doesn’t have high interest in him. He has no fear that he will lose his woman to another man. He doesn’t feel as if he has to check up on her or that he can’t leave her alone for five minutes. He is protective towards his woman without being possessive. He knows that one human being can never own another human being and that ‘slavery is illegal.’   Yes, guys, be confident in yourself and if she is meant to cheat on you than she is not worth a second of your time so it’s better that you let her go but if she truly loves you, no matter what kind of a situation she is in, she will be there for you and love you and not do anything to hurt you at all.

The main reason for a guy to feel jealous or possessive about a girl is when she does not show complete interest in him and she acts like she does not care about him as much as he would want her to, well if that is the situation than it really is better to end the relationship before it becomes worse.  But, if a girl is truly into the guy, she will make him feel special and this will not give a guy any reason to feel jealous or feel too possessive about her and in return the girl would feel better as well.
I think girl’s should look at this characteristic in a positive way and think to them self that maybe they mean so much to their boyfriend or husband that he does not want to lose you at any cost, now doesn’t that make you feel better about yourself and the whole situation?